Posted on 02/14/2017 at 02:28 PM by YMCA of Greater Des Moines
Whether it’s bringing up that letter grade from a C to a B or learning how to play the guitar, a new school semester is full of opportunities for teens to learn and grow as individuals. No matter what the goal may be, we — parents, relatives, teachers, coaches and mentors — can help children and teens achieve success along the way. The best way to do this is to help them set, accomplish and celebrate their personal and academic goals.
By setting goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and tangible (S.M.A.R.T.), teens are more likely to succeed and are better prepared to achieve larger goals down the road.
A vague goal such as, “I want to do better in math,” makes it difficult to gauge progress or completion. On the other hand, a series of specific short-term goals such as, “I want to get a B on my next math test,” helps teens focus on what is needed to achieve the long-term goal without the discouragement of not succeeding right away.
Just like New Year’s resolutions, it is easy for youth to be excited about setting goals at first, but fall off-track or become less motivated as time goes on. Encourage them to hold themselves accountable by writing down the goals and creating an action plan to keep track of progress. This helps teens stay focused and keep moving forward. There are many free templates and worksheets for goal setting and action planning available online.
Taking an objective look at potential hurdles can help teens problem solve as they work toward success. Yet it’s also important to encourage positive thinking around problems to avoid self-sabotage or discouraging thoughts. For example, if a youth’s personal goal is to learn how to play the guitar, it is better to focus on the notes he or she has already learned versus the notes they have yet to learn. By expressing goals in positive terms, adults can help teens focus on progress, which will motivate them to stay committed to the course.
Giving teens a voice to express their goals and a choice on how these goals should be achieved, whether personal or academic, helps them build decision-making and problem-solving skills they will need in the future.
Pausing to reflect boosts our ability to handle obstacles and barriers in the future. Be intentional about setting aside time for teens to discuss their goals and progress with adults and their peers. By celebrating success, teens may become more confident to set and pursue more challenging goals in the future. Similarly, acknowledging failures is an opportunity to learn and recalibrate for future goal-setting.
What are your ideas for helping teens succeed? Share your strategies in the comments!
Adapted from Y-USA article originally published on ymca.net